How can I tell the difference between healthy and unhealthy arguing in my relationship?

Answer by  CarolynOsborne (2804)

Healthy arguing is characterized by respect. In other words, both people keep the focus on the difference of opinions rather than making personal attacks or bringing up ancient history. It is okay to be angry, but healthy people are thoughtful about how their feelings affect other people and they are careful with what they say when they are angry.

Answer by  Venki (19)

An Healthy argument always helps in finding solution to a problem, resolve personal conflicts which is attributed by partners listening to each other before commenting out and accepting their mistakes if any pointed out by the partner and thinking sincerely to solve the problem at hand. An Unhealthy argument is one with heated discussions just opposite to an healthy argument.

Answer by  Gfaaw (143)

Arguing which leads to violence or which is all one sided isn't arguing, its abuse. A person in this type of relationship should get out before it escalates into something worse. A disagreement that allows both parties to express their concerns has a chance to be resolved without lasting effects.

Answer by  coolcatzz (19)

We went to councelling and he told us when you're fighting be sure to stop & hear what the other person is saying. When you answer say "So you are saying I'm not fair because..." so that shows you are listening.